400 days – 40 reasons my life is better

Flashback Soberistas blog from 13 months sober 400 days sober today! It feels really significant to me, I guess because I make a big deal of the 100 day milestones, and also because I stopped drinking two days after my 40th birthday so the number 4 feels important to my sobriety somehow. So, to mark the occasion, here are 40 things I do now, that I didn’t do when I thought my best friend was wine: 1. Wake up with no hangover, every single day….Continue Reading “400 days – 40 reasons my life is better”

Why we are warriors

Make no mistake about this, being sober in the world today is HARD. Wonderful, amazing, infinitely worth it, but also hard. Not the getting sober, which is also very hard, as we all know, but just existing as a person who has experienced addiction and then has to live in a world which glamorises and reveres the very thing you were addicted to. Especially as the world and everyone in it also seems to then take every available opportunity to tell you in subtle and…Continue Reading “Why we are warriors”

Why I don’t want to moderate

Flashback Soberistas blog from 6 months sober For the last five years, since we started trying for my eldest, when I drank it was mostly, on paper, moderate. Every single thing on my list of awful things that happened to me when I drank happened in 2011 or before. 2012 onwards I would often have a couple of glasses of wine on a Friday night and stop there due to complete exhaustion. I would go out with friends and just have a few and come…Continue Reading “Why I don’t want to moderate”

How did I change my mindset about alcohol?

Flashback Soberistas blog from 10 months sober The million dollar question. Because my blogs are generally pretty positive about sobriety I‘ve been asked that quite a few times. HOW did you do it? How did I get from the cycle of drinking, feeling crap because of drinking, drinking again to feel better, feeling like drinking was one of the few good things in my life so why the hell would I give that up? From my entire social world revolving around alcohol, from it being…Continue Reading “How did I change my mindset about alcohol?”

Actually 18 months – year 2 check in

18 months sober today!! Feeling really good about that, but also reflective. At the start of this year I wrote a blog on Soberistas called Note to self, my plan for year 2. At the time I was thinking ahead about the things that might derail me on my sober path, that might lead me back to drinking. Now I’m 6 months into year 2 it doesn’t actually feel like that at all anymore. The things I’m working on now are not so much sober…Continue Reading “Actually 18 months – year 2 check in”

Sometimes it’s hard to be a flamingo

Flashback Soberistas blog from 7 months sober This came up on my Facebook feed today and it made me think of us: I’ve seen some posts and blogs recently from people feeling a bit out of step with the world and so questioning if sobriety is right for them. I don’t think any of us are immune to that. Being sober in a world that normalises, and in fact, glamorises alcohol use isn’t easy. Sometimes I do feel exactly like a flamingo in the middle…Continue Reading “Sometimes it’s hard to be a flamingo”

(Almost) 18 months sober – a few random things I’ve learned

I know it’s a bit weird for the first post in a sobriety blog to be at 18 months but I’ve been blogging over on Soberistas and, until now, been feeling too scared to ‘go public’. But here I am – hi! I stopped drinking the day after my 40th birthday party (that was one hell of a hangover) on 19th February 2017. My life since then has been full of amazing surprises and now I basically want to share the sober love as much…Continue Reading “(Almost) 18 months sober – a few random things I’ve learned”