I’ve never been to an AA meeting but apparently it’s a saying within the Fellowship that by five years sober you’ve got your marbles back and by ten years sober you’ve learned how to use them. So I guess I am now the recipient of a shiny new set of mental marbles (but no instruction manual), because I am five years sober today! Five years – it feels like a crazy long time but also in a weird way just like the beginning. I certainly…Continue Reading “Five Marbles”
I had to mark the occasion of turning 1800 days sober today. I still gives me as much joy to hit a sobriety milestone as it did back in my days inching up to 100, 200 and 300 on the awesome hundred day challenge thread on Soberistas. Because every milestone is a reminder of how far I’ve come, how much I’ve achieved and how enormously much BETTER my life is now compared to 1801 days ago. These are some of my favourite reasons why: 1….Continue Reading “18 things I love about sobriety for 1800 days”
Hi loves and merry Christmas Eve to you all! I just wanted to drop a few reminders here for anyone who needs them today: 1. If you could just have one drink you wouldn’t have found yourself here – one drink leads to more drinks which leads down a path you very much do not want to follow. You’ve been that way before – you can choose a different and better path now. 2. The voice in your head telling you that drinking is a…Continue Reading “Christmas reminders”
I just wanted to blog today to acknowledge that this time of year makes it really hard to be sober and to remember the genuine joy to be found within our sober lives. And I’m all for taking personal responsibility for my reactions to things but I‘m sorry, this really is a clear case of it being not us, but them. I am sitting on a work call, about wellbeing of all things, looking at the chair’s ‘festive’ Zoom background which is a photo of…Continue Reading “This time of year is hard!”
Hi lovely people I am 1700 days sober today! That number just seems ridiculous to me. It really doesn’t seem that long in a lot of ways since I was painstakingly inching my way up to my first 100 days. It feels significant though and I wanted to blog, and for my topic I thought I would think of what early sobriety me would have wanted to ask someone several years down the line and then answer those questions, to the best of my ability….Continue Reading “17 Q & As for 1700 days”
I always feel wary of writing anything that makes me sound like I think I’m some kind of voice of wisdom about anyone else’s life. The more I learn in my psychotherapy training and work placement the more I realise how truly individual we all are, about everything. But I’ve read a few blogs on Soberistas lately from people new to the site, or from people coming back having fallen back into drinking over the pandemic, and I just wanted to share some random thoughts…Continue Reading “For anyone wondering if they can do this (again)…”
Four years sober. My soberversaries always make me reflect back on my sober journey. And this time around I can see that each previous year so far has had a distinct flavour. This makes me excited about the year to come, to find out what it will bring, what year 5 will taste like. Which is such a shift from drinking me, who was utterly terrified of the future. So terrified she clung to anything and anyone that felt safe and familiar, however much it…Continue Reading “Four Years Sober”
Happy Thanksgiving US friends! I hope you all have a wonderful day filled with turkey (or your veggie/vegan equivalent), family (as much as is possible) and love. I know the holidays can be a challenging time though – you may be alone and feeling blue, especially this year. You may be with people who expect you to behave a certain way today. You may be in a situation which you strongly associate with drink and you can’t imagine how you will get through the day…Continue Reading “20 reasons I’m grateful for my sobriety – for Thanksgiving 2020”
A few things have prompted this blog. My 3.5 year soberversary. A holiday I’ve just had with my daughters to Cornwall all on my own which has been the biggest boost you can imagine to my sober single mum confidence. A friend who has reached out to me recently and asked me why my life is better sober – like why specifically. An awesome sobriety meeting with The Luckiest Club which was focused on how important it is to be real with ourselves about all…Continue Reading “Flying free for three and a half years”
Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault I am 19. I try to open my eyes but they feel like they have lead weights on them. When I do finally haul them open I have a moment of absolute confusion. My brain can’t make sense of what I’m looking at. I feel fuzzy, the edges of the room around me softly blurred. I hear a voice asking me if I know where I am and somehow I do. ‘I’m in hospital’, I reply, then the darkness swallows me…Continue Reading “Sliding Doors”
